Thinking Out Loud

Those Dreaded Words: Anxiety and Depression

Anxiety and depression are not feelings, they are states. That may sound like mincing words, but it’s an important distinction, especially when we’re talking with children about their feelings and concerns.  Read More

Talking About Each Other

It’s what we do. We talk about each other, yet we don’t like it when we know that others are talking about us, “talking behind my back.” Sometimes we worry that what someone might be saying is something they wouldn’t say directly to us. This may well be true and that thought makes us feel bad. Read More

The Conversations You Want To Have

Are you having the kind of conversations you want to have around the kitchen table or the staff-meeting table? If not, do something about it. First, do your homework, which begins by looking at yourself. What potential obstacles might you be putting in the way? Do genuine fears hold you back from discussing what you believe is important—what are they? Could you be assuming a negative outcome to a conversation, which might prevent you from starting one in the first place or might project a defensive/negative position that sets a shadow over the discussion from the beginning? Or do you wait for an opening that is not likely to occur? Read More

Absorbing Energy

Empathy is tricky business; it’s also natural and part of being social creatures. Sometimes it’s hard to believe that someone has empathy because what they see happening is very different from what you see. Empathy, however, is part of us all even though we feel it, have it, and express it (differently).  Read More